How to tell when passed loved ones are around you
An interview with Tracey Dimech// @traceydimech
Have you ever walked through your front door and had the feeling someone has just been in the house? If you’ve ever been broken into, you’ll know exactly what I’m talking about – and in that case, it feels just awful. But even if you haven’t, maybe you can recall a time you could tell your flatmate just left for work, or someone with a key has popped by to drop something off. It’s not that you can see their footprints, but there’s a way of knowing, their presence is kind of imprinted on the atmosphere.
That is the same feeling I had after my father died. For at least a year after he passed, his presence was palpable on a weekly if not daily basis. It was as if I had just walked into a room and missed him by *that* much. I never actually saw him, but I knew, somehow, he was hanging around – occasionally I could even smell him.
After a year or so, that overwhelming feeling of dad’s presence gradually began to wane, and although it’s now been nearly eight years, I still feel he “pops in” from time to time. Tracey Dimech, spiritual alignment coach, medium and psychic says that’s entirely likely. “Our loved ones are always wanting to communicate with us from the other side. They have a perspective that is beyond our limited human understanding of life and they want nothing more than for us to have clarity, closure and guidance,” Tracey says. “Time is really a human measure. For Spirit it is about you are here and they are there, time makes no difference to them. I have connected client’s with loved ones who passed over 20 years ago.” Here, Tracey reveals how to know when your passed loved ones are trying to communicate, and how to not freak out if they’re coming in hot.
What are the most common signs someone is trying to reach out from the spirit world?
Spirit works with energy, so if the vibration is right, you are open and there is an opportunity to communicate, they will! They love to communicate through music, often playing songs of significance at uncanny times. Music works for them because it is operating on vibrational frequencies. It’s common for me to have a client say that they heard a song that meant something to the lost loved one, between the time they had passed and the news of their passing.
Perfume, the familiar waft of Grandma’s baking and the pungent whiff of stale cigarette smoke are other common signs that Spirit is communicating.
Visitation dreams are quite rare and require a very strong energetic connection, along with the perfect dream state to occur. For those who do have their loved one’s visit in a dream it is a blessing.
Spirit also uses water and electricity to communicate. So, when you find random puddles of water in the kitchen or lights flickering, fans spinning, televisions randomly turning on, you can probably put it down to an effort to communicate.
“As a Medium, I hear them tell me so many things that prove they are with us often during our day to day lives,” Tracey says.
is there a time period when they’re more likely to get in touch?
I can connect to a spirit within the first 24-48 hours after they pass but after this, they enter what we know as the ‘Healing Chambers’. This is where they transition from the attachment to their physical body and lifetime and move into their Spiritual body of energy. This process has no set time attached to it, it really depends on the individual spirit and what trauma – physical and emotional, they need to detach from. Their energy is not usually available during this time to connect with us. In my experience, I believe it to be a window of anywhere between 7 days – 12 weeks before their energy becomes open to receiving my energy. The most common times that they will attempt to connect is on anniversaries of death or significant events like birthdays or weddings. This a prime time for them as your electro-magnetic field at this time is very open to them because you are thinking about them.
can you ask for confirmation if you’re not sure you’re reading the signs right?
An integral part of being able to communicate with spirit is to not read too much in to it, have faith that it is them and trust that your initial thought to what it could mean or who it could be is more than likely spot on!
You can encourage another sign by simply asking and being prepared for a message to come in any way. Often, we miss it because we were too busy thinking, or hoping it will come a certain way. Be open and patient. It takes the perfect combination of energy for them to do it again.
can we make the first move and reach out to them?
One thing that all spirits ask me to tell their loved ones is to ‘speak out loud’. When we think and feel about our lost ones, we send an electro-magnetic energy field out into the universe. This field is what spirit can recognise and their energy is pulled to you. They know you are thinking/feeling about them, but they don’t know what it is you are thinking and feeling.
So, next time you are missing them or asking them for guidance, try speaking it out loud. This way your loved one will understand fully and if the energy is right, they will attempt to respond via a message you can recognise.
If your intention is to try to communicate as often as possible then you could do these four things to promote the chances of an encounter:
1. Electronics: use electric frequencies so having a space that is dense in electrical appliances, with power switched on, will create more usable energy for your loved ones to harness and transmute into ‘signs and symbols’
2. Meditation: Deep, advanced meditation will alter your consciousness and lift your vibration to a space that Spirit can communicate. If you are a seasoned meditator then you could always attempt a few minutes at the end of your meditation by simply asking for a specific person in mind to come through. This may not happen the first few times but it’s worth a try! Not everyone can accomplish this though so don’t put too much pressure on yourself, or your loved ones.
3. Keepsakes: Items that belonged to your loved ones hold their residual energy and are a great way to attract them. If you have any jewellery, watches, photographs or handwritten notes, then bring these items out and spend time connecting to them. Hold them, wear them and read them (out loud). Ask for your loved ones to help you recognise their presence. Remember to keep an open mind about how they show you.
4. Set the table: It’s also an idea to ‘set the table’ or make a cup of tea and leave it out for your loved one. If it’s a child, then leaving their favourite toy or blankie out where you can monitor its movement is ideal. Ask your loved one to show you they are there by interacting with any of the items.
If we do receive a message but feel anxious, what’s the best way to handle it?
It’s understandable for some people to get a little scared or worried when it comes to communicating with Spirit. However, it’s very rare for it to be dangerous. If you ever feel overwhelmed by fear or doubt, simply clap your hands with intention three times. This sends out a vibration which works a little like sage. It dispels the energy around you and makes it impossible for any Spirit to work with.
Messages can be cryptic and often mean the exact opposite of what we think! For example, dreaming of someone dying is in fact a symbol for rebirth. It’s a good omen. It means that the person you see die is going through a spiritual death and will soon forge a new start.
A useful technique to try when feeling scared or worried, is to imagine a white bubble of light encompassing you. Imagine that it is your protective shield from anything that may be negative. Visualise your feet growing roots from under and sinking into the earth, this will ground your energy to Mother Earth and keep you safe.
If you receive a specific symbol or message which is concerning, there’s every possibility you may be interpreting it incorrectly so don’t jump to conclusions until you have spoken to an experienced Medium.
Five signs from the other side
Feathers: Most people associate the white feather with a sign from above. This is absolutely a sign and it is simply your loved one letting you know that they are watching over you, like a guardian angel. It’s the sweetest time to take a second and say thank you and blow a kiss.
Butterflies: Butterflies are also very well known to symbolise a visit from a loved one. My six-year-old daughter lights up when ‘Old Grandma’ comes to say hello and every little one of the white butterflies appears to play along and love her back. They want to remind you to smile and reconnect to your playful side, don’t take yourself too seriously.
Birds: Another common way our loved ones will whisper to us is through birds. Birds are messengers of the Spirit realm, with each bird having a different symbolism. Kookaburra’s are to let us know that change is coming and to not resist it, but rather trust that it is happening for you. Magpies are typical of the Grandparent figure attempting to watch over us.
Pets: If you have ever seen your dog have an encounter with ‘thin air’ then you’ve probably just witnessed an energetic being, that as a human you can’t see. It is usually someone you know but could also be a spirit that belongs to the home.
Coins: Finding the random coin along the way is another sign from above. They want to remind you of your value and self-worth, and occasionally it can mean to pay close attention to your finances.
